No, I don't and I am sort of on the receiving end of counselling, not dishing it out, but this is an area that desperately needs sorting in layman's terms. I have found a book, by Dr.Deepak Chopra, called le chemin vers l'amour ISBN 2 290 33919-9 which sorts some of this out by going through this "stage" of "finding yourself "in a love. Being at the outset of what may well be a very happy relationship in which this is an important subject, I would offer you this mini guide to a non western philosophy (it is buddhist and written in French) which make some attempt to "chart this territory" where I think quite a few people are getting lost.