I have found the work of Donald Mosher very effective in discussing the depth and quality of sexual experience. He discusses three levels, 1) the Trance state, which covers the basic physical attraction of sex, 2) the Role Inactment state, which I paraphrase as the level at which we bring Identity, and take away Identity, and 3) Partner Engagement, which I translate as a level of Connection between the partners. I also use some quotes from The Dance of Connection, by Harriet Lerner.

Does anyone else use Mosher's material in Counseling? I will be interested in exchanging ideas.

Gerald